The Relationship Between Siblings

Eighty-two percent of American children have siblings, and the impact that brothers and sisters have on each other’s development is profound. Siblings are among our very first relational experiences, and are typically our most enduring ones. As psychologist Hara estroff Marano writes, “Despite siblings’ power to inflame, they are the longest-lasting relationships many of us ever have. Others may help us become who we are, but no one else knows us from the beginning to the end…” (2010, p. 56)

Unfortunately, this power can cut both ways: while it can enrich a child’s life and make them stronger, it can also inflict permanent wounds that become the source of ongoing distress. In conducting interviews for their book Siblings Without Rivalry, Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish report: “I had always been aware of the part that parents played in shaping their children’s lives, but never until this moment had I considered how powerfully siblings could affect each other’s destiny. Yet here was one grown man saying he still has to be the boss; another who is still driving himself to keep up; a woman who still feels she can never measure up; and another who is still suffering from having to be ‘the good girl.’ And mainly because of who their siblings happened to be.” (1998, p. 10) Of course, it isn’t so much the siblings themselves that exert such power; it’s how the God’s of every child’s universe (you the parents) treat them in relation to their siblings.

Parenting also changes once you bring a second child into the family. In fact, the problems parents have in managing sibling rivalry and sibling conflict is probably the #1 most difficult parenting challenge families face. It’s what gives rise to most of their every-day hassles, and the conundrums presented by sibling conflict has left many-a-parent perplexed.

How to better manage sibling relationships

With so much riding on the relationship your kids have with one another, it’s worth taking a little extra time to learn how to better manage sibling relationships. Our eBook, Super Siblings will arm you with time-tested techniques for parenting siblings, everything from how to discipline so that the kids don’t constantly drag you into their battles. To create incentive systems and teamwork building activities that will dramatically reduce the amount of conflict in your home. It’s just $7.99 (a tiny price to pay for the return on investment you will get from this book). All proceeds from your purchase go to help kids in need. You can also select from the free online information linked below.

Information for Parents on Dealing With Siblings


How to Improve the Relationship Between Your Kids

Sibling relationships

  • The complex nature of sibling relationships (eBook)
  • Realistic expectations for your kids (eBook)
  • How siblings benefit from one another (eBook)


The roles children play in the family (eBook)

Children routinely fall into patterns or roles within the family that guide the way they behave. Learn how these roles impact sibling dynamics and how they might contribute to the problems you experience.

Promoting positive sibling relationships

  • Super siblings: How to promote positive sibling relationships
  • Enjoyable experiences that will build their bond (ebook)
  • Teamwork building activities for siblings (ebook)
  • Fostering positive feelings between siblings
  • How to turn children into caretakers for their siblings (ebook)
  • Fostering helpful behavior between brothers and sisters (ebook)